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My Alabama Shaw Family on My Father’s Side From 1861-2014



Whippings were an event at my Granddaddy’s house

Posted Aug 25, 2016

Annie Shaw-Barnes, Ph.D.
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Hi everyone,

Whippings at Granddaddy’s and Grand Mama’s house were an event.

When a Shaw sister or brother was whipped, the others gathered and watched with sadness. They never liked to see Granddaddy and Grand Mama beat one of their sisters and brothers. Yet, each remained silent. To have spoken out, would have caused the sister or brother to, also, get a whipping because my grandparents were head of their household. All black parents should be that way. So, my Shaw family shared home life laced with fair and equal discipline and joint headship of the family. In essence, they taught us there is no space in a family for a slack man who does not help his wife raise their children a good way.

Surely, it was another reason my daddy, aunts, and uncles grew up loving each other. They were not hurt or angry with each other or with my grandparents because discipline was unfair, and the children were not slick, with
the exception of one daughter. What a great lesson for families today.

When it comes to discipline or punishment, parents cannot afford to have a favorite child who gets less of either than their brothers and sisters for equal behavior. Surely, this is one of the best lessons my grandparents taught us about whipping and punishing children.

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